How to Find Out if He Loves You

Everyone wants to feel loved. No one wants to live a lonely life, without someone to love. This is why many spend a lot of time looking the right match hoping that it will one day lead to a perfect marriage. Women are the most affected. This is because many of them do not how to tell if the partner really loves her or is just having fun. 

 

There have been many cases where the lady misinterprets the man’s actions and this never augers well. Take time ands read the signs, then conclude and react positively. That is the best thing to do. Most ladies want it to be that the man loves her, maybe due to the ego-boosting that comes along with it, but it is never a hundred percent. Here are some tips that can help you accurately find out if he loves you. 

 

To start with, he looks happier than usual whenever you are around. You can see this by the way he behaves whenever the two of you are together. He tends to get hyper and all jovial even when there is a problem. It is said that love is a hundred percent happiness. Therefore, if the man is always alive then there is obviously some chemistry between the two of you. Secondly, he is always trying to get your attention. This depends on the type of man he is. In most cases, he will crack a couple of jokes every time the two of you are together. To some ladies, this might seem annoying whenever the guy frequently puts out some corny jokes. The truth of the matter is that the person is trying to get your attention in an indirect manner.

 

Thirdly, he wants to know you inside out; every single detail about you. They tend to ask a lot of questions. Some even go at an extent of asking what you ate for breakfast or what you are planning to wear tomorrow. This is just a show of how interested he is in you. On the other hand, he is just trying to evaluate you and checking if the two of you are compatible. 

 

Finally, he will persistently communicate. This might in form of text messages, phone calls or even through social sites; so long as he is communicating. He will send texts just checking on how you are or how your day has been. This along with the other signs show that he is thinking of you and is attracted to you. 

5 Tips to Improve Your Relationships

Human beings are relational by nature, and everything they do directly or indirectly revolves around their relationship with other human beings. However, the main hype or juice of human relationships is based on love relationships. It is very rare to hear of someone who throws themselves over a bridge or from a five-story building because of their sister, cousin or, worse still, their friend. However, it is such a common occurrence to hear that someone ran his or her car into a stone wall because of love. It is therefore obvious that everyone (or almost everyone) finds this article very relevant, because everybody wants to know how his/her relationship can improve.

 

Primarily, you should listen more and talk less (no wonder we have two ears and one mouth). Learn more about your partner by simply listening to them, just as you would want to be listened to. Also, give your partner high priority. Think about your partner before you think of yourself. It is natural for human beings to first secure themselves before doing so to others, but this often ends up straining their relationships. When your partner is well satisfied, he/she will have no need focusing on him/her, but on you.

 

Respect is paramount in any relationship. It is even believed and proven that men spell the word love as r-e-s-p-e-c-t. Respect should be applied when talking and when acting out things. A partner who feels that they are not respected will become defensive, and this is the last thing you want in a partner. Communication, too, has the same weight as respect. Women spell love as c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n. However, even the woman in a relationship should communicate effectively, just like the man should respect the woman. Do not assume your partner knows what you want; communicate it. Let your partner know you well by letting them, and this can only be done by effective communication.

 

Relationships also thrive on creativity. You cannot do the same things you used to do ten years ago to show that you are thoughtful. Be very creative and treat your partner out to nice surprises every now and then. This should be based on the likes and dislikes of your partner. For instance, if she hates flowers, you cannot surprise her by sending her a bunch of them over lunchtime. Be unpredictable, and be flexible. This will keep the hinges of your love rust-free. 

 

5 Signs that He Loves You

At times, men can be very secretive. In fact, recent research shows that men are the most secretive beings. A normal man opts to languish in pain rather than share his problems with a friend. The same applies to boy-girl relationships. It is very hard for men to open up to women and tell them exactly how he feels. They find it to be very difficult to share their feelings. This is mostly because they are afraid of rejection. As a result, it is up to the woman to figure out for herself if the man is really into her or not. This is why most relationships take ages to stabilize; the two parties take time to open up to each other.

 

The other problem comes in after the woman fails to read all the signs. Normally, women take time to know that the man is interested. I do not know if it is because they are naturally slow or maybe they are in denial. Whichever the case, these signs will help you know that he loves you instantly.

 

To start with, he will always be very inquisitive; in a good way. Most men want to know everything about their interested parties. This not only applies to women but also to other items such as cars. Men normally ask many questions before buying a particular car. This is to know exactly what it entails. The same applies to women. They even go to an extent of asking what you are planning to eat for supper. It might sound silly but all they want is to know you better and access if the two of you can make a good couple. They also tend to do some things just to get your attention. This might mean cracking many corny jokes when the two of you are alone. All what they want is for your attention to be theirs.

 

In addition to these, they also love spending quality time with you. The best way to know this is if he always gets jovial whenever you are around. All of a sudden, he gets a live and all psyched up. This definitely means that he is interested in you. On the other hand, he will always keep in touch. It can be through either text messages or even phone calls. It does not matter; all that matters is that he always keeps in touch simply wanting to know how you are doing. This proves that he cares for you. 

 

How to Turn Your Friend into Your Lover

Friendship is one of the few things that we all treasure, and especially good friendship. This applies for both men and women. However, there are some cases where we start developing some extra feelings towards our friends. This is common between men and women friendships. One of the parties starts seeing the other as more than a friend. The other party still sees him or her as a friend, hence the situation gets tricky. The one who has fallen in love finds it very difficult to open up to the other afraid that he or she might even loose the friendship. However, there are ways in which you can turn the friend into your lover. Play your cards right and these tips might work. 

 

To start with, do not show any kind of desperation. As you know, desperate times lead call for desperate measures. In this case, desperate measures might not help you out. In fact, they might worsen the situation. It is therefore wise to avoid desperation. Comfort yourself with the thought of many more options. Do not regard him or her as the only option. Still on that note, do not spend a lot of time with them. Try and show them that you are quite busy. In most cases, this works as ho or she will start looking for you and will realize just how much they care for you. This will be a plus on your side.

 

Even when spending time with them, avoid doing this in groups. Make sure that you do them just the two of you; this will increase sensuality. Stop doing the things you use to do when you were friends. Start doing more intimate things. A good example is taking supper together at your place instead of going for movies. Watch a romantic movie at your place. This will help him or her start seeing you in the same way you see them. It is very important for them to see you as more than a friend since it is the only thing that will help the two of you become lovers. 

 

On the other hand, it is the simple things we do that cause the greatest impacts. For example, if you friend is a girl, eye contact will help you. Ladies can read eye contacts very easily. They can notice a strong eye contact and come to as conclusion. It is therefore wise to maintain strong eye contact when talking. This will go a long way in helping you turn her into a lover. 

Personal Accountability—Do You Know Your Own Influence?

All of us influence someone. We may not be leaders, but we are in leadership. We may not be powerful but we have power. We may not have responsibility but we are responsible. An old adage states, “No man is an Island.” Even those people living the most isolated of lifestyles have influenced someone, are influencing someone or will influence someone. You cannot be human and not influence someone or something in your world. Do you know the power of your personal accountability and the influence you have on the world around you? 

 

As parents, we influence our children. Early child hood experts tell us that a child’s personality is fixed by the age of 5 years old, and in those early preschool years, children lay the foundations for everything they will need to learn for the rest of their lives. As they watch their parents or the significant adults in their lives, they learn as we teach them values, morals and behaviors they see portrayed in us. We influence our children in more ways than we sometimes understand.

 

As members of a work team, we influence the people we work with every day, even if we do not have a leadership responsibility over them. As we interact and work with our colleagues, we challenge work ethics and habits. We help colleagues learn new ways of doing their jobs and to approach time management in a new way. Our influence can help create a harmonious and happy working environment but a lack of team focus by any member or members of a workplace can create an environment of hostility and jealousy that reduces productivity and increases job satisfaction 

 

When we realize the influence we consciously or subconsciously have over other people, we are more willing to accept personal responsibility for our actions and reactions to particular circumstances and situations. It challenges us to consider others needs and the consequence of our actions and words. 

 

There are however those who live with a very self-focused view. This attitude is characterized in advertisements on television that suggest we have every right to focus on our personal rights and to indulge our dreams and desires. There is nothing fundamentally wrong with this attitude unless in the process we forget we are not an island and what we do will always influence others. We lead others by example.

 

Maintaining a Journal to Discover Yourself

Do you keep a journal to record your life journey? Maintaining a journal is an exceptionally good way of making sense of the things you go through in your life. You can tell your journal what you cannot tell other people and as you look back on past entries, your journal is a record of how every experience you go through in life, becomes a mirror that reflects how you have grown through those experiences. 

 

Many people feel they could not keep a journal. If you feel this way, and the reason is that you do not like writing or feel you can’t write properly, do not let this stop you exploring this excellent method of keeping track of the many thoughts and ideas that travel through your mind daily. Journaling is not about needing to write in any style or with grammar. You are the only one who will read the journal. It is your thoughts on paper 

 

Other people have found creative ways to use their journals. Drawings, photographs and poetry or quotes can sometimes depict the stories that you cannot write on paper. It is not the method you use that is important, but it is the concept of keeping a journal; it is the benefit it will be to you and your journey of self-discovery. 

 

Most of us hold our feelings inside, these can have both a stunting effect on our personal growth, and they can lead to health problems if the stress that usually accompanies them remains internal. Expressing thoughts on paper is the simplest way of learning how to express our feelings. Once expressed we can either look at them from a different perspective and deal with them ourselves or we can feel more willing to talk about them with others. 

 

Journaling for self-discovery need not be only for expressing our inner feelings and thoughts. As we travel through life, we inevitably have some great ideas. As we write these ideas down, we can return to them when we are in a position to either follow them up with action or to revisit them in the future. Without writing our ideas down, we often forget them and many of the gems that life offers us are forgotten when we try to commit them to memory. 

 

Once you create the habit of maintaining and writing in a journal often becomes a lifelong habit.

 

10 Questions to Understand Yourself

Do you understand yourself? Understanding yourself helps you to make decisions that help you to choose the best paths for you to take. Often the choices we make without understanding ourselves can be wrong decisions that create problems. Understanding our strengths, weaknesses, what gives us satisfaction and what causes us stress help guide our paths to those experiences that will provide us with the best possible outcomes for our choices. 

 

If you keep a journal these 10 questions may help you to know yourself and to get in touch with inner thoughts and feelings. They can help you make choices in your private life, your working life and in your relationships. 

 

1.  Describe what you believe is truly important in life. Describe anything you would fight for in life to keep and not lose.

2.  Describe what values in life best reflect what you believe are essential values that you treasure about yourself. Describe what gives you happiness and a sense of achievement and what upsets you and causes you stress and anger or frustration.

3.  Describe a dream you have about what you would like to achieve for yourself personally in life. Describe what affect this dream is having on your life currently and what you would hope it to have in the future.

4.  Who is a mentor or major influence in your life and how do they help you make decisions? Why are they an important influence?

5.  What would you like to achieve within the next 10 years in your personal life? 

6.  What do you consider are your special talents and gifts?

7.  What skills would you like to develop in either your personal or working life in the next 12 months?

8.  What would you regret not doing if you look back on your life in 20 years’ time? 

9.  What do you consider your greatest achievement in life until now? 

10. What do you consider is your greatest failure, sadness or disappointment?

 

Remember there are no right or wrong answers for any of these questions. As you answer them honestly and thoughtfully, the answers will provide you with a picture of you and a summary of your hopes and aspirations and the things you can learn from your past choices. Turn your answers into life goals and use them to help make decisions that will shape your future. 

How to Fall in Love with Yourself

Do you love yourself? Most people probably take a deep breath when they hear that question, but it is a valid and important question and one if we could all answer yes to, would change the way we feel about ourselves and give us self-confidence to achieve the dreams and desires we have for our lives. 

 

Someone once asked the question “how can we expect others to love us if we don’t love ourselves” and this demonstrates the importance of learning to love the unique person we are. It is accepting that we have own special place in this world. Feeling unloved and unworthy is a very lonely feeling. If you cannot find anything to love about yourself, you are probably struggling on the inside with a whole range of feelings. 

 

Learning to love yourself is possible. To love yourself, you must challenge the negative feelings inside that center our thoughts and self-wealth feelings on external things like how successful we are in our roles as mothers or husbands or how well we can sing even how good looking we are. While acknowledging their role in our life, our self-worth and self-acceptance is about the person we are, the person we are comfortable being around when everyone else has left and we are alone. If we are not comfortable with that person, we do not love our self. 

 

Take time to sit and write all the things there is to love about yourself. Be honest with yourself. Do not let negative self-talk stop the process. Try to do these five simple things every day and you will find yourself thinking differently about the private you few others see or know.

• Challenge your negative thoughts about yourself by having positive ones written down and read them aloud to yourself often. 

• Learn to self-care and do something every day that you enjoy doing. You deserve it!

• Look in the mirror and learn to love the person looking back at you and tell him or her often she is lovable and why.

• Fill your life with people who love you and tell you often what a special person you are. Accept their words and their love without questioning it.

• Add to your list about the person you are, the good thoughts you have about yourself and read them regularly. 

 

When you have positive feelings about yourself, you automatically begin to love yourself and hence you do a better job at whatever you do.

 

There Is More to You than You Think

The person you look at in the mirror who is looking back at you may not be the person you think he or she is. Most of our self-awareness comes from our perceptions of how we think we appear to others. Just how accurate our thoughts about ourselves are, is usually dependent on our life circumstances and the people and events that have shaped our memories and our perceptions of the things that have happened in it. 

 

Our self-talk tells us about ourselves and if we listen long enough to it, it will speak louder than family and friends who often affirm our strengths and abilities. Not all self-talk is bad. Sometimes it says things, which give us a premonition, and keeps us away from harm. 

 

Others have achieved a sense of acceptance of who they are and where they fit into the world. For many people however, the public image they portray to others may not be a true reflection of their inner feelings. Self-talk convinces many people that there is nothing good in them or their lives. This creates tension and sadness that can manifest itself in destructive ways. It can affect relationships and health if not corrected. 

 

How do people develop the negative feelings about themselves? Often, they are the result of someone we love or trust saying or doing something that makes us feel bad about ourselves. Even though what we may initially know that what we are telling ourselves is not true, over time we begin to internalize and then believe it. It begins to affect the way we think and feel about ourselves and how we appear to others.

 

Escaping the negative feelings means learning to love the unique person we are. It means learning to allow others into our lives again without fear of a repeat of the hurt or rejection. We can do this alone by consciously rejecting the inner voice and countering it with a reminder of all the blessings and successes in our life or we can do it with the help of a trusted friend or counselor. 

 

Finding the inner strength to face our negative thoughts about ourselves is the first step to discovering that we have hidden qualities and strengths we are often not aware of. It is a journey that no person will regret taking, once they embark on it. 

5 Factors that Are Necessary for Personal Enlightenment

The concept of ‘to enlighten’ is very similar to the thought of ‘turning the light on’. When we think of personal enlightenment, it is easy to think of it as a ‘turning the light on inside me’. It is about getting to know myself. There are five factors necessary for this personal enlightenment. Learning these factors will change our own lives and the lives of those around us.

 

1.  Believe that Personal Enlightenment Is Necessary for Self-acceptance 

 

Many of us do not like, let alone love ourselves. Self-acceptance is only possible when we are comfortable with the person we are, physically, emotionally and spiritually. When we experience the ‘light bulb’ moment in our lives, we are at a turning point. We can use this moment to grow or we can choose to turn it off and retreat back into the darkness of our former selves. 

 

2.  Believe that Personal Enlightenment Is Necessary to Change Ourselves and Our World

 

Those who choose to explore personal enlightenment are usually self-empowered as they learn to recognize and then unlock the power of the person they are or would like to be. These are the Nelson Mandelas, Malcolm Xs, and Martin Luther Kings of this world. Their journey to enlightenment changed them so profoundly, it empowered them to change their world. 

 

3.  Believe that Personal Enlightenment Is a Journey, Not a Destination

 

Although we may experience a light bulb minute, this is self-awareness, it is not enlightenment. Our life is a journey of experiences and personal enlightenment enables us to make sense of those experiences as we meet them on the journey. As we apply what we lean each experience helps us understand ourselves more fully.

 

4.  Believe that Personal Enlightenment Is a Force for Good and Not Evil

 

The world is a global community and each of us is its member. As we learn about and then gradually progress to accepting ourselves, we are more likely to accept others and enjoy who they are and encourage them on their own path of enlightenment.

 

5.  Believe that Our Past Influences Do Not Control Our Future

 

As we accept that our past life influences have no control over us, we can learn from its lessons and apply them to our future. Our past often holds us captive to its mistakes. Enlightenment frees us to learn from them.