Thursday, 13 January 2022

How to Recover Quickly from a Breakup

 

When a breakup happens, it is painful on both the persons involved. But, despite the pain and anguish that is bound to follow, people do break up. If you have been unfortunate enough to have had a breakup recently, it is justified if you are feeling completely dejected with life. However, if you give it a thought, there are ways in which you can overcome the pain and move on with life.


First and foremost, you have to be rational about your breakup. Ask yourself—why did the breakup happen? Certainly, something wasn’t meant to be. If it was like that, then why do you want the relationship at all? Right now, you may be feeling completely bad about everything that happened. But, let some time pass and you will actually be heaving a sigh of relief that a relationship without potential was over. Think about that, and the breakup will not seem such a bad thing after all.


Now, prepare a list of all the good and the bad things that happened while you were together. If you see that there were many negative things that happened when you were in the relationship, it will become a sort of support for your breakup decision. You would mind it less because there were all those bad things that happened. You won’t feel the pinch of the breakup that much.



How to Make Him Fall in Love with You


Do you have your heart set on some guy you see often, at school, college, workplace or just in the neighborhood, but do not know how to make him fall in love with you? This can be mighty frustrating! You want to strike a good relationship with this person but you do not know how.

 

Now, here are some tips by which you can do just that.

 

Get Him to Notice You

 

Nothing is going to work unless he notices you. Now, guys have an innate eye for girls; so, your problem here is not as difficult as you think. You just have to plan to be in the right place at the right time, which should not be very difficult considering you share several common places. You might think of a few other ways of grabbing his attention. Take care of the way you dress. Learn to speak in a refined manner and polish up your personality. Guys like all these things.

 

Understand His Personality

 

Once you have got his attention and got introduced to him, you have to understand his personality. You have to see what he likes and what he does not like. Find out about his passions for starters. A good idea here is to ask him to add you on Facebook or any similar social networking website, and chat with him there. You can know a great deal of a person’s personality when you are chatting with him. Also, ask his friends if you can.

 

Please Him… But Just a Little

 

It is your turn now to give him a little attention. When you have started talking with each other, you might give him a small something as a keepsake. But, this need not always be material. Speak about the things he likes to speak about; go to places with him where he likes to go; cook things for him that he likes to eat. All these things make you important for him.

 

Let Him Plan Things for You

 

All men love to plan things for their women. He will want to plan too. He will want to plan a date even. Let him do that. Men like to be in control. Men also like women who allow them to be in control.

 

Just Be Yourself

 

Over and above everything else, you have to learn how to be in control. It is very important for you that you do so. You should maintain your integrity and you should have an opinion of yourself. Men do not like women who change for them; that is a fact. They do not like women who hide themselves behind layers of makeup. The most desirable ones are always those who are as natural as can be.

 

Keep these things in mind if you have your heart set on a man who you want to claim as yours. They will help in diverting his attention towards you and keeping him close to your heart forever. 



Benefits of Having a Relationships Coach


Most of you have heard of a relationship coach but have never tried seeking the services of one. Basically, this is trained individual that helps single people find their perfect soul mates. On the other hand, they also try and mend broken relationships. There are various benefits that are related with seeking the services of a life coach. To start with, they are the only people who can help you finally meet your perfect mach. Most of us go through a difficult time looking for that one individual that we automatically blend with. 

 

On the contrary, a relationship coach can easily point out the perfect individual to relate with. They do this by comparing various aspects between the two of you such as interests, values, desires or any other thing that you have in common. 

 

Secondly, they tend to offer hope to those that might have lost it. We are all different; there are those that are not affected by being single while others go to an extent of breaking down just because of being single. This is the main reason why we hear of people who have done some stupid things just because of love. A relationship coach is the best person to deal with such cases. He or she convinces the individual that all hope is not lost. On the other hand, they also coach them on how to positively live single. Most importantly, they finally find perfect matches for them.

 

Thirdly, relationships coaches can also warn you of unhealthy relationships. This has become a very common problem today with very few individuals being able to tell if a relationship is unhealthy or not. They only get to find out when it is too late. A relationship coach will help you free yourself from such relationship. On the other hand, a relationship coach can also help you save your relationship before it is too late especially when it comes to such unhealthy relationships. 


Apart from bringing the two of you together, a relationship coach can also teach you how best to date. He or she will give you the secret tips that will make your relationship blossom. The coach will tell you of the dos and don’ts. These are the little things that make a relationship great such as communication. You will no longer have to worry whether you are doing the right thing or not, the relationship coach will help you out.



Discover Yourself by Writing Journals


There are a number of benefits that can accrue as a result of keeping a daily journal for you.  It can help you have a deep insight into your life. It can help bring to the fore some aspects in your life that may be hidden. It helps you look back and notice a certain habit that you are fond of. It May also serve as a tangible way of relieving yourself of anger and emotions that might be getting to your nerves or disturbing you. Thus, to a large extent, journal writing can help you discover yourself.

 

Journal writing refers to where an individual keeps some form of log of his/her day-to-day life. It may be kept on a daily basis or even weekly basis. Here you jot down the activities of the day, the thoughts, dreams you have had, emotion and feelings. You can do this on a well decorated leather journal or you keep journal of your life on a simple notebook.  The end result is similar weather you are using a simple notebook or an expensive leather journal.

 

If you want to discover yourself through journal writing you simply start by creating an account where you simply write all your undertakings. Here you are simply downloading all your troubles and feeling to your friend, with the advantage that this will not spill to a person you do not want. When you want to blow off steam that has resulted at your place of work, or your wife/husband is driving you nuts. It is important to let these feeling go. To a large extent when you jot down your feelings it seems therapeutic and they act as a highlight of how the day was.


How It Leads to Self-Discovery

 

It will help you express your emotions of happiness, love and personal fulfillment and result in peace of the heart. It will help you shed off tears of anger, feelings of anger and depression, relieve you of anxiety. It can act as a very useful way of letting off what is taking you nuts. After you have done enough writing you will start to notice patterns that are within you.

 

With ease track the things that bring you certain feelings. You can come to a conclusion of what makes you upset, what depresses you or the particular time when you get upset. It can also help you know whether, for example, you have some issues at your workplace that are unresolved. 



Wednesday, 12 January 2022

Self-Discovery Series—Balancing the 4 Quadrants of Life


“Balancing the 4 Quadrants of Life” is one of the books that make up the Self-Discovery series. This particular book deals with the life quadrants and how one can use them to better his or her life. These quadrants all add up to two things; our actions and attitude, of which are brought about by our words and thoughts. What happens is that we absorb information, process it in our brain and talk about them. This way, our attitude towards that particular topic is shown by our attitude.

 

Generally, this will influence the manner in which we will behave in the quadrants. Spirit, mental, emotional and physical are the life quadrants. According to “Balancing the 4 Quadrants of Life”, 3 of these quadrants influence the outcome of the fourth one. It claims that the physical quadrant is influenced by how well the spiritual, mental and physical quadrants are. The physical is the one quadrant that is visible to all those around us. This is why people get judgmental when we do not develop the other quadrants. They always notice that something is wrong with our physical quadrant. Therefore, we should careful to improve one our three quadrants knowing that the fourth will come automatically.  

 

According to the book, our mental quadrant is more of a consumer. This is because it takes in information using the senses; sight, smell, taste, hearing and touch. One cannot control the information we take in but we can control how we use it. This is the only way in which one can control his or her mental quadrant. Use the inner voice to do this, also known as conscious. Still in relation to this quadrant, the words we utter as a result to our mental consumption influence our future. We should try our level best to dwell on the positive rather than the negative.

 

As for the emotional quadrant, it is made up of feelings. According to the Self-discovery series e-book, these feelings are just but stored memory of past events. We normally see them in form of mental pictures and thoughts. We normally reflect this through our actions and talk. Faith is the major aspect of our spiritual quadrant. We normally show faith in whatever we speak or do. Generally, all these quadrants affect the physical quadrant. In the book, it is said that we should however balance all the quadrants. An imbalance may lead to a weak physical self.      



Self-Discovery Series—What Can It Teach You?


The Self-Discovery Series is a series of e-books that are all about knowing who oneself is. There are a total of six e-Books in the series namely: Polarities, Enneagrams Mystery, 9 Personality Types, Conscious Blitz, 4 Quadrants of Life and Balancing Truth Love Power. Basically, this series acts as a guide through the journey of self-discovery. They describe all the aspects that make up one’s personality and how to discover them. Not many are in a position to efficiently describe themselves. It takes another person to effectively describe the characters basing on pure observation. However, there are particular ways in which one can fully analyze himself and correct the wrong traits in him. This should be done in order to improve communication skills between them and those around him or her. 

 

Basically, these e-Books deal with human psychology. This is what helps people to discover their inner-selves. “9 Personality Types” is the main book discussing the types of personality types there are in the world. According to the book, there are 9 personality types. Everyone has a particular personality that describes him or her. Each of these personalities has a good and bad side. This is why we are all different though some of us are alike to some extent. Due to this familiarity in terms of personality, such persons tend to confined in each other hence forming some distinct groups. The book however helps you discover your personality and how to improve on it. 

 

There are characters that hope to be like others. This next to impossible no matter the amount of money you invest in it. The two of you have different personalities that can never rhyme. As a result of trying too hard, most people end up frustrated. These e-Books help you deal with such a problem if you are such a person.


On the other hand, the same books also speak of other aspect of life such as the life quadrants. “4 Quadrants of Life” specifically speaks about this. It outlines the four quadrants and how they function. The eBook goes to an extent of describing how the four quadrants are related to each other and how they get to affect one’s personality. Another book in the series that talks of life aspects is “Balancing Love Truth Power”. These three things are the main components of our day to day lives. This particular e-Book describes how one can balance the three for a stress-free life.                  

 


Steps to Self-Discovery


The best way of self-discovery is through a personal journal. You can choose to keep a journal for only a week. You can put down promptly their total series of work during that whole week. This will help you to examine themselves and be able to tell the state that they are in and make them to think seriously about what exactly they are. 

 

A single day would correct the exception of the other and make yourself to weigh all those different acts which are forgotten within no time must be included. You do not have to buy a very expensive journal if you do not have money. 

 

You can make use of the common books or get the not so expensive notebooks from various stores. This will bring out the right look of the true you. Do not be scared of your own thoughts. If you want to do this in a much simpler way, you can consider taking a mirror and sitting in silence while closing your eyes and pay attention on yourself. You should think from the time that you started your day in the morning to that time that you end your day in the evening. 

 

Think about all that happened to you in the course of the day. For you to be able to focus more, you should be able to do this every single day for at least a moth, as the saying goes, ‘practice makes perfect.’ 

 

You should also look at your image in the mirror and pay attention or focus on yourself and talk to yourself. You can do this by complimenting yourself. You are also not to think of any negative thing, let your mind think of only positive things. You should remove all the negative thoughts from your mind. Sometimes you might feel sad or scared, do not cast them away but instead clinch on to them and look into the mirror and accept yourself the way you are. 

 

You will at some point experience these strong feelings when we are able to look at ourselves when we can say these words and imply them. When you reach this point, you can now grab your pen and start to write down whatever you feel at this particular time. If you journal about yourself for several weeks then by the end of the month you would have formed a series of self-discovery evidently.  



Journal Writing as a Key to Self-Discovery


Using a journal is more of an exploration of your own self. Most people think that writing a journal is extremely a narcissistic step but that is not true because this is the first step of moving inside you. When you look inside yourself you will realize that you know so much that what you thought you knew. This will help you to also be able to counsel yourself. There are various ways which a journal can help you in self-discovery. When you are writing journal you do not have to put down everything but what you were thinking of that particular time. May be when you were taking the dog for a walk you saw somebody crying that will make you stop and reflect. You should reflect about what you studied and the reason why you do something.

 

There are times that you do not know what to write on the journal and the time to write. A journal can be written anytime. But you should try and choose a time that is standard and so you do not have to write the journal every single day. You can choose to write a journal at least twice or three times a week. You can either write in the morning or evening or both morning and evening. It is very important if you choose a standard time so that you can have a guide to discussing and writing during these times. 

 

Some people also find it hard to buy a personal journal or some do not know where to write a journal. This is not a complicated thing and you can journal in an ordinary book. You can also go to the streets and find a cheap notebook which will help you as much. Journals were also made from blogs, in this current day they have changed to websites, but one can use them as journals still and writing confidential information. Blogs can also be made private and this has helped so many people because it helps those who are not shy of whatever people will read.

 

The other thing that most people do not know is what to write in the journal. The good thing about a journal is that you can put down whatever you want. This can also be looked at as an individual website to chat about your needs. You can be able to learn more about yourself and also remark on things that you have observed. This is a superb way to work through a series of views. Looking for self-discovery questions will also help you in having an insight of your thoughts.  



Analyzing Your Personal Spirituality


The name analyzing is derived from the Greek words “ana” and “lien”. “Ana” can be equated to the word “throughout” while “lien” can e equated to the word “loosen”. Therefore, the word “analyze” refers to the act of loosening something and separating it into bits then looking at them thoroughly. Basically, there are three ways of analyzing spirituality, in accordance to the three parts that make up one’s personal spirituality. These are; the origin, the progress and the culmination. However, not everybody has reached the culmination stage. It requires one to have fully progressed in order to reach this stage. Analyzing your spirituality will also inform you whether or not you have reached the culmination stage among any other reasons to do this. 

 

The first step in analyzing your personal spirituality is checking whether or not you have started the spiritual journey. How do you do this? It is simple, just ask yourself if you have ever reached a stage whereby you feel dissatisfied with life to an extent of feeling like totally giving up. Contrary to most of your expectations, if the answer is no then you have not yet begun your spiritual journey. One has to have experienced this so as to begin his or her spiritual journey.  

 

If you have gone through this dissatisfaction in life, then it is now confirmed that you have already begun your spiritual journey. The second phase is to ensure that you are progressing in the journey. This can also be confirmed by answering one simple question; have you become so compassionate to other living beings as well as creatures and plants? As we all know, progressing in your spiritual journey simply means that you are progressing towards the Creator hence that urge to develop His creations. Therefore, in this case the answer should be yes for you to know that you are truly progressing. Unlike other sectors, progress in spirituality cannot be determined by the amount of knowledge one gets but by the compassion he or she shows to God’s creation.

 

Finally, the only way to tell if you have reached perfect spirituality also known as the culmination of the spiritual journey. Most people claim that there is no end to the spiritual journey, but this is not the case. One can know whether or not he or she has finally reached the culmination stage in the spiritual; journey by asking themselves whether or not they are afraid of death. If the answer is yes, then you have finished the journey and vice versa. 



Essential Steps to Spiritual Enlightenment


The body is made up of more than just the physical self; there is also the spiritual; self. As a matter of fact, the spiritual self is the more important of the two. This is basically because it consists of the soul and all its elements that aid in the general growth of the entire body. Each and every individual is on his or her spiritual journey and the progress can only be defined by their degree of spiritual enlightenment. Spiritual enlightenment also known as spiritual quotient brings about this growth and development in the spiritual self. On the other hand, it also brings about self-awareness. 

 

However, there is one major problem that affects the spiritual side of an individual. This is the strong cohesion to self also known as lack of detachment to one’s inner self. In other words, this is what many know as loving self. It is good to love yourself but too much of it might hinder your spiritual growth. Frances Vaughan, the renowned spiritual author, said that one of the main marks of spiritually enlightened individual is that he or he relates to those around them in that they care for them; whether plants, human beings or animals. This is one of the main characteristics of true spirituality. 

 

In order to achieve this, there are certain steps that one should take. Step one involves getting in touch with your inner self. Many people make a mistake of ignoring this step since they do not understand it. To many, it sounds like a cliché. What this means is that your physical body should be able to connect with the inner you. As a matter of fact, you are just but a spiritual being living in a physical body. Therefore, it is necessary for this link to exist. 

 

The second step is for you to set your mind in a relaxed state. This is o essential if the body is to co-ordinate with the mind and soul. For spiritual awareness to occur, the brain has to play its part. This is not possible if you keep stressing the brain with multiple thoughts at ago. Give it some breathing space. 

 

Ultimately, get rid of all the doubtful thoughts that might be bothering you. It is said that doubt is the only force that can drive you away from spiritual intelligence. It is normal for the conscious brain to be full of doubts but it is vital that you do your level best to clear them or spiritual intelligence will just be a dream for you.