Why Don't You Believe In Yourself?

All you need for success is to believe in yourself. 

 

You’ve heard it before, right? The greatest teachers of success tell you that this is a true statement. There’s one small problem, they don’t take a moment to understand why you don’t believe in yourself, nor do they address how you can change it. 

 

A lot of people don’t believe in themselves and when they don’t, it’s incredibly difficult to deal with pain, failure, and rejection. Yet, failure is a necessary evil on the road to success.

 

Think about this for a moment – when you sit down and create a list of goals you’re relying on yourself. Yet, we rarely know our true worth. Often, we are the literal worst person to recognize our capabilities. So, how can you set goals for growth if you don’t know what you’re truly capable of?

 

The Struggle to Believe in Yourself

 

So, why are you so hard on yourself? You have a negative reflection of yourself, and it’s a representation of all the garbage you’re carrying around in your head. It’s that voice that constantly whispers that you’re not good enough, that you can’t do the thing or, that you shouldn’t push yourself. We all carry a negative reflection such as this, but the real problem is that you don’t believe in yourself. You don’t turn to your worst enemy if you are in need of support, do you? When you don’t believe in yourself, it’s difficult to turn to yourself for that belief. You’re doing it in the wrong order. First, you need someone who believes in you and then you need someone else to believe in. Finally, then you can believe in yourself. 

 

You need to find a new reflection. Someone who is capable of showing you your greatness. Think about the following: what type of support do you need right now in your life? Who would you like to turn to for that support? Why should they support you, what’s in it for them? What actions are you willing to take in order to get the support that you need? Once you have an idea in your head about whom you want to reflect your greatness back to you, speak to them! Ask them what it is that they get from you being in their life? What do they think your strengths are, and have them rate your relationship on a scale of one to ten. Ask them what you can do to push it to a 10. 

 

The Journey to Self-Belief

 

Believing in yourself ultimately means that you believe in your capabilities. How can you if you don’t know what they are? When you start to accomplish something, then you will finally start to be able to believe in yourself. In order to accomplish that first thing, you need someone to be the wind beneath your wings. You need someone who will lift you up to propel your self-belief. 

 

You probably know someone who constantly struggles, with holding down a job, finishing a project or even holding onto a relationship. Their lives are constantly plagued by stupid decisions. They don’t even try to change because deep down, they’re terrified of failure. So, they accomplish nothing. 

 

It’s time for you to accomplish something and begin your journey to self-belief.

 

This will hinge on commitment. If you are committed to change and growing your self-belief, then you will. If self-belief means believing in your capabilities, then you need to commit to honing your capabilities and growing your skills. From there, the only way is up. While you’re at it, be sure to thank the people in your life who have contributed to your growth.